Love is a beautiful and powerful emotion that can bring immense joy and fulfilment to our lives. However, when love is mixed with possessiveness, obsession, and insecurity, it can become toxic and damaging. The phrase “If you love someone, set them free” is a reminder that true love should be selfless and not controlling. It’s a simple yet powerful statement that has been used in books, movies, and music. It suggests that love should be free and not forced. True love is selfless and unbinding.  

“If you Love someone, set them free.”

When we love someone, it’s natural to want to be close to them and protect them. However, when this desire becomes possessiveness, it can lead to controlling behaviour. We may feel like we need to know where our partner is at all times, whom they are talking to, and what they are doing. This kind of behaviour can make our partner feel suffocated and trapped, leading to resentment and the breakdown of the relationship.

” True Love is Selfless, It is prepared to sacrifice.”

Setting someone free in a relationship is not always an easy thing to do, especially when you deeply love that person. It can be challenging to give up control. However, setting someone free can also be one of the most loving and selfless acts that you can do for someone. It shows that you value their happiness and well-being above your desires. It demonstrates that you respect their autonomy and believe in their ability to make the right choices for themselves.

Obsessive behaviour is another trap that can arise when love is mixed with insecurity. We may become obsessed with our partner’s every move, analyzing every word they say and every action they take. This kind of behaviour is exhausting and a clear indication that we don’t trust our partner. And if we don’t trust them, then the relationship is built on shaky foundations.

Love is not about possession or control. It’s about accepting someone for who they are and giving them the space to grow and thrive. This means letting go of our need to control their every move and trusting them to make their own decisions. One should not forget that the other person is your partner and human. You cannot control or allow them to do what they want. They are adult independent individuals. They have all the rights to their own life. They can pursue their interests and friendships, even if they don’t always include you.

Setting someone free doesn’t mean we stop caring about them or are not invested in the relationship. It means recognizing that the relationship is a two-way street and that both partners need to have the space and freedom to be themselves. When we trust our partners and give them the freedom to grow and explore, we show them that we value their individuality and respect them as a person. 

Of course, setting someone free also means being prepared for the possibility that they may choose to leave us. But true love is not about possessing someone or keeping them with us against their will. True love is not selfish but selfless. It’s about wanting what is best for them, even if that means letting them go. And if the relationship is meant to be, then setting them free will only strengthen the bond between us.

“Every end is a new beginning.”

If you love someone truly, setting them free demonstrates your trust in their love and their ability to make the right choices for themselves. It can lead to a stronger and more fulfilling relationship or a peaceful end to a relationship that no longer serves both partners. Remember “Every end is a new beginning.” All’s well that ends well. Ultimately, it is about respecting their autonomy and prioritising their happiness, even if it means letting go off their desires.