In some of my previous articles, I have written about the joy of giving, self-obsession & many more which describe how you can put yourself back and should think about others. Yes, that is important perhaps more important. But for the people who are always putting themselves back and sacrificing everything for others without concern about their happiness. Without thinking whether they are getting any acknowledgement or appreciation for doing such a gesture. 

 

This kind of people should set their priorities, how far they should go to help others and especially keep in mind themselves. One should always draw some boundaries to help others without affecting their happiness and self-respect. 

 

Learning how to prioritize yourself goes beyond self-care. There is a huge difference between self-care and prioritizing yourself. Prioritizing yourself means crushing the beliefs that are keeping you accountable to others’ priorities and prioritizing your dreams and ambitions that you also matter the most.

 

I know it’s not that easy to make yourself a priority and put yourself first. But believe me, it will be worth putting and not only for yourself but for the people around you and your loved ones. Because it’s very simple if you cannot make yourself happy you cannot make others happy too.

 

There are some important factors which you should practice while making this change;

 

1)   Discover Your True self

We spent our whole life performing our duties as bosses, employees, partners, sons, daughters and parents. But what happens when all these roles end!! When you come out of all these duties and you get to retire, you feel like prioritizing yourself but at that time you don’t know who you are!!

 

You always end up fulfilling others’ expectations and, in that journey, you forget what you want. What are your expectations? What are you most passionate about? So, stop a while and think about all these questions, and ask yourself what you want. And when you get the answer, then schedule more of those quiet moments and start doing those things.  

 

2)   Forget Expectations

When you are perfect and perfectly managing all the expectations of others, it will keep hiking day by day. Everyone wants one & the other thing from you. Like our parents want certain things for us. Our spouses have their own needs & desires. Our friends expect us to keep up with them 24/7. Sometimes even strangers pressure us through social norms. Above all these, you should keep in mind nobody should matter that much more than yourself. You are just true to be yourself. Prioritize your goal and what you want, a career, financial freedom, or a relationship. You cannot get everything all the time. You must have to make priorities. 

 

3)   Don’t Limit Yourself

Once you realize that you must help yourself to help others, you will still have some work to do. You have to change your mindset and make your mental ability stronger. You have to conquer your limiting beliefs; the things which are holding you back from learning how to prioritize yourself and your happiness. 

 

From our childhood, we were facing some beliefs like to earn love, importance and respect from others we have to fulfil their expectations. We have to behave or act in a certain way that others like. It’s like give and take relationship, we have to give something to get love and attention in return. This whole process become our belief and it stayed with us from our childhood to adulthood. You have been made to feel you didn’t deserve love unless you put others first. And all these limits your ability to prioritize yourself. 

 

So, conquer your limiting beliefs and fear of missing out (FOMO). Come out of your boundaries, take a stand for yourself, follow your passion, and start today, it’s never too late.