Two sisters were playing in the garden. Twisha is the elder one and Isha is the younger one. Twisha was taking care of Isha as their Mom ask her to do. Twisha makes sure that her young sister would not fall from the swing and protects her from others too. 

 

Isha is a very joyful as well as energetic girl. She always shares everything with her sister. After they finished playing, they open a snack box given by their Mom. It has two apples. When Twisha opened a box Isha quickly grabbed both the apples and start to take bites from both apples one by one. 

 

Twisha was so surprised and start thinking, that was not nice of Isha. From where she is taking that kind of tendency!! It’s so annoying for her. Her little sister is becoming greedy. She was a little upset with her. She was thinking to complain to Mom about all this. 

 

Then suddenly after taking one bite from each apple Isha has given one apple back to Twisha and said Hey sister take this one, it’s juicier & sweeter. You will love it. 

 

There are many stories like this. We have seen different people around. Everyone has a different story. But we always end up assuming about them by our perception.

 

Things are not always as they appear. Sometimes we make a quick assumptions about people, circumstances and situations. We judge them, label them and put them into boxes, not recognizing that there is a much bigger picture. 

 

Here I have narrated a simple positive story. But in today’s time, everyone is judging every second person in a very negative way.

 

For, example if someone got promoted then people around them will think that he/she must have given something or been bribed for it. The instances are many more and I can go on and on about it.

I think today we are facing a psychological epidemic. One in which people no longer realize how stereotyping they are in being technically right. I know it sounds so strange but believe me, it’s a life/death sort of issue. Because people are becoming more pretending and fake, out of fear of being judged. 

 

People should be more practically right than technically. All our conflicts come because of the gap between practical and technical rightness. Practical rightness means to see beyond the obvious, beyond what is visibly seen. 

 

Whenever you find that your partner is not loving you, your friend is ignoring you, or your child or your parents are not listening to you anymore. Here you are technically right but try to find out the practical reason why are they behaving so!!

 

When your partner or friend met you, he/she texted you, called you, pampered you, and took you out regularly. Suddenly they stop all this. You start thinking about all possible negative things about that like he/she is not loyal to you, doesn’t care anymore, lost interest in you, maybe they find someone better and lastly doesn’t love you anymore. These are the common assumptions.

 

I am not saying this is wrong. But you should not assume without knowing the actual reason. You quickly judge them and put them into the box of disloyalty. They may be stuck in some really important work or sometimes they may be going through a difficult time so want to spend some alone time. Talk to them. Ask them. Then jump to the conclusion.

The next time you see someone not fit into your definition of “technically right”, please do not be judgmental. Go beyond the obvious. Go beyond the seen. Try to look for the hidden reason which will truly help you understand the person. Have empathy for everyone.

 

Sometimes we meet someone in a particular state, stage or phase of their life and stereotype them to be a certain way. Don’t be so quick to judge. You never know you might find yourself walking in someone else’s shoes. And remember, the best apology is changed behaviour.         

 

So, Be free, be happy, and be independent in your thoughts. Take the gear of your life into your own hands. Feel good. Do give your feedback. What do you think? Share your views in the comments.